It seems that many people have been coming on Aidpage to ask for cash since the recent airing on the show 20/20 which featured a lady who recieved money from using a site such as this one.
Many people think that because this lady recieved help , they should recieve it too . After all , aren't we just like the lady on 20/20 ? We deserve help just as much as the next person.
But what happens when we recieve the help , but don't change our lifestyle ?
We have every intention that we are going to change. All we need is a clean slate and everything will be wiped away , and we will start over and never spend like that againn Right ? WRONG . Intentions aren't going to pay the bills.
Patterns tend to repeat themselves unless you make an effort to change them . It is too easy to say that as soon as our debt is erased , we will be totally good about our spending habits. Then something comes up that we have to have , or it won't be there the next time , or our friends want to go out and we aren't going to stay home and be lonely just because we don't have the cash , or we have a CRISIS and we have to use the money . or 'everyone has (fill in the blank) , and I am not going to be deprived anymore. I work hard , I deserve some fun' Then we get the credit card bill . We pay the minimum , because we need the cash for other more important things ,and GUESS WHAT ? in a couple of months , we have this HUGE credit card bill ,and we don't know what happened.
WE ARE ALL SICK , AND WE DON'T HAVE A CLUE. THIS IS WHAT WE HAVE PEOPLE , GET OVER IT BEFORE YOU DIE IN THE FEVER OF ME ME ME :
!Af-flu-en-za n. 1. The bloated, sluggish and unfulfilled feeling that results from efforts to keep up with the Joneses. 2. An epidemic of stress, overwork, waste and indebtedness caused by dogged pursuit of the American Dream. 3. An unsustainable addiction to economic growth.
Why do people in our country think that we are ENTITLED to things ? We are blind . It is all for me ,and who cares about you. I want some more money because I am entitled to it. Who cares if your mom is dying and you don't know where you will get food for your kids ,and you have cancer. That's your problem. I have my own stuff to deal with.We are the 'Land of the Free' Free from what ? Reality ?
Whatever happened to loving your neighbor , or family helping family , or the whole neighborhood getting together to raise money for the Jonses because they are having a hard time ,and after all , they'd do it for us if we were down. People are hurting all around us , all the time ,and we don't give a crap anymore.
College students go to school and the first semester they are inudated with credit cards. When they graduate ,they will be rich , so why not use the card ? Then because they will be rich, why not start living in the lifestyle now ?
Husbands leave their wives and family because they are intitled to some happiness.
Families move away from each other so that they can make something of themselves and find their own way.
SELFISHNESS IS SO MUCH PART OF HOW WE THINK IN THIS COUNTRY THAT WE ARE TOTALLY LOST WHEN IT COMES TO THINKING ABOUT ANYONE ELSE BUT ME ME ME.
If anyone cares enough to read through this all the way through , then maybe you can be part of the cure for the sickness in this country .
Here are some solutions . It won't be overnight , instant , or free of hard work. You probably won't get any money out of it. Maybe a sense of integrity and knowing you are helping will be payment enough.
"Anyone--regardless of their net worth--
who belives that they must be rich, that more is always better,
is a self-condemned prisoner of the 'golden ghetto'."
-- Jessie H. O'Neill
"For decades our political leaders have touted higher incomes as the way to better lives for us all. But after years of sustained economic growth, we must confront an awful fact: we aren’t any happier.
Clive Hamilton’s bestselling book Growth Fetish is the first serious attempt at a politics of change for rich countries dominated by the sickness of affluence, where the real yearning is not for more money, but for authentic identity, and where the future lies in creating a society that promotes the things that really do improve our well-being " - HIGHLIGHTING MINE . I HAVEN'T READ THIS BOOK YET , BUT I AM CHECKING IT OUT OF THE LIBRARY AS SOON AS I CAN.
"We have become addicted to having rather than being and confusing our needs with our wants," -Oliver James
I WANT TO GET SOMETHING STRAIGHT. IN NO WAY DO I MEAN TO SAY THAT THERE PEOPLE WHO COME TO AIDPAGE THAT ARE NOT REALLY IN NEED. You can verify this by looking at my other Aidpages. Here are some people who are truely in need :
Lets take a look around, in my neighborhood, back in the 21st century.
Couple of doors down, theres a CTA bus driver. He has a beautiful 3 year old daughter. born brain damaged. His wife quit her job as a bank teller to take care of her. They are selling their little house now, to pay the medical bills with what little equity they can recover.
Across the street, theres a middle aged man, just sitting in his backyard. He had a good job, lost it in the recession. His wife left him, taking his two children, not because she didn't love him, but because that was all her parents could support. He can't get another job, even though he is skilled, employers don't hire people his age and Gods knows Bobblehead Chou's labor department makes FEMA look efficient.
Lets try a little time travel again. December 9th, 2002. Another middle aged man lies on the floor of his apartment, his pet cat cradled in his arms. Also lost his job in the recession. His cat looks up at him, meows horribly, and dies. He lays there for two days, not crying. You see there was no money to pay for a veterinarian, even to put her to sleep.
Lets jump around again. Lennie is a middle aged black woman, scraping out a living selling things in a little flea market on the south side of Chicago. A kind woman, she helped others even when she had nothing herself, even taking in some street children when they had no where else to go. Right now, she is sitting on the couch, her teenaged daughters arms around her. They had just been reunited after her daughter had ran away for several years. Well, not exactly ran away. been abused by a street gang, repeatedly, for a very long time.
Those are all true stories. I could tell many more, but I think I have made my point. - http://www.janegalt.net/blog/archives/005450.html SCROLL PAST THE FIRST POSTER . SHE IS A GREAT EXAMPLE OF THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN EDUCATION AND IGNORANCE.
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